What a morning

Last night my wife after I gave her a big orgasm with my tongue, she gave me another ruined orgasm. My balls have been really bothering me and though it wasn't a relief to my current level of frustration it helped with the ball pain. And yes I had to eat it again (and there was a lot) but again since it wasn't ruined I didn't mind. Then she dragged me into the bathroom and pissed a really nasty piss into my mouth (apparently she was really dehydrated and had been drinking really strong tea all night). She found my chocking really amusing. I came back in to her using her vibrator for a second orgasm, she had me fighting to get me tongue in around her vibrator, again really amusing her.

This morning I snuggled up and pressed my cage against her. We then made out like a bunch of high school kids. At that I suggested maybe we go in to work a little late. And maybe we could get up and I would go prep myself and when I was ready she could come down and peg me. Then I could give her an orgasm and then we could take a tub together and I would shave her legs. After which we could get ready and have a nice lunch and head to work.

At first she thought it was a ploy to get out of the cage but when I told no I did not expect it. We had talked about her starting to peg me when I was still locked. Once she was comfortable with that she was good to go. Once the morning routine was through I went down to the basement and prepared myself. My wife expects me to be one hundred percent clean when she pegs me. When I was good I called her and asked for her to give me five minutes. She said "ok" and I went and grabbed our neoprene gas mask and got it on and climbed into our sling.

She came down and said how much she liked finding me in the hood and started to do some breathe play. Then she grabbed a glove and started lubing my up and got on her harness and cock. Wow, it was an incredible time...she really pounded the crap out of me. It felt so good and was such an incredible experience, I am not sure how to express it but when she pegs me I just feel so submissive to her and being locked and knowing I was going to be allowed to cum through penile stimulation was mind blowing. She kept playing with the cage and the hood's hose and was really into it. I kept telling her how much I wanted to be her dirty bitch, and she kept saying you already are. I really thought I was going to cum but it didn't happen but it felt so incredible.

She stopped and said get my harness off me so I took the hood off and got the harness off. She went over to our liberator  and waited for me to climb between her legs (she didn't wait long). She was so wet and ready again it did not take long.

My wife kept asking if I really enjoyed it and I was like "God, YES!" I explained that when she pegs me I just feel so incredibly submissive to her. Then I turned the question because I know she is not able to cum from it (we have tried) why she likes it? Her reply was the power she feels when doing it and the dominance over me. She then said she liked it even more with the cage and that the cage made those feelings so much stronger. The rest of the morning went the way it was described above. We did have a lot of interesting discussions about where we are recently and maybe I we do a post about it some time.

No relief in sight

My lovely wife is definitely ramping things up. Yesterday morning we were both off and she said go get the penis board and the thin rope we use with it. Below is a picture of the penis board

She then proceeded to amuse herself tying my cock down and abusing it. Then she went and grabbed a bunch of clothes pins and clips and amused herself further. Then she untied me and started to strock me and it felt wonderful. As I started to get close to cumming I asked if I was allowed to cum. She just started laughing and saying "nope!" I quickly pointed out that we haven't had sex since last Tuesday and my last release was Thursday. She said "yeah she knew but that I wouldn't be cumming anytime soon." Then she explained that I would not be cumming for another two weeks and that I would be locked the entire time. BLINK..BLINK. I have never gone longer then a week and then I was climbing the walls. She said yeah it will be good character building for you. She said she planned on ruined orgasms and maybe trying to milk me. 

And she went back to her project at hand of ruining my orgasm. On and on she would bring me right to the edge and stop. I asked what happened if I had an accident. At that she slapped my balls hard and said "that but only harder." Finally, she got me right to the edge and let go about 30 seconds later it started to dribble out. UGH! We knew it was a ruined one because I was willing for her to feed me my mess. Something after I cum, I am always resistant to doing. She said that making me eat it when I am willing is not nearly as fun.

Getting Back on Track

Long time without posting but there really hasn't been a lot to say in terms of FLR or chastity. But I think there have been a lot of good conversations about our needs and what each of us needs for an FLR to work.

I know a lot of people that want FLRs say that BDSM and kink is really not their motivation. And I tried to think that way but made clear I would like for it to be. I learned that it is not a want for me but a need. I really really love my wife to be in control and making the decisions and my serving her but I need the BDSM & humiliation parts to for it to be satisfying for me. There was a blog post that was about dominance versus abuse but really captured the idea that some submissive husbands need these things for the FLR relationship to be fufilling (it can be found here: http://dommewife.blogspot.com/2014/05/the-fine-line-between-domination-and.html ). My wife was a little taken aback when I showed it to her because of the abuse discussion. I had to explain that I just felt the post captured exactly what I felt that I needed these aspects and it wasn't a simple want.

My wife has really been pushing for us to get back to it. But last week really it just wasn't going to work out but I agreed to start today. Then I really hadn't heard anything more about expectations or anything. So last night I told her it was up to her if we went back to it. I couldn't emotionally get excited for it and be let down again. All she said was ok and then again I voiced some of my frustration and her response was I have given it a lot of thought and I know what I want (not telling me if we were going forward or what her plan was).

This morning I woke up with her going through my drawers and pulling out a pair of panties that I was suppose to wear today. Later in the day I thanked her and she told me to go was out the pee ice trays and that she planned on refilling them this evening. And then she told me I should plan on being in the body bag this evening. So looks like she does have a plan but looks like I will only get to know, what I need to know, when I need to know it.

Whilly Nilly

Last weekend my wife told me she had decided to lock me up for the week while she was gone. Every time we had some alone time she reiterated how I was going to be locked and she was taking her vibrator on her trip and cumming as much as she wanted...UGH!

She was sick yesterday and I wondered if she was going to remember or forget. I went back and forth on whether to remind her (too be clear I would not have cum without her permission) or not. But knowing that I am submissive to her I bucked up and did the right thing as asked about it. She said no, she decided with it being just me and our son that it was probably best for me not to be locked up.

This morning as she was getting ready to leave. I was sitting in our tub reading, she came over and gave me a kiss and said go ahead you can be whilly nilly (meaning I can cum as often and as much as I want) while I am gone. WOOOO HOOO! Of course then she said because when I get back things are going to be changing, she then snickered and walked out.

Last Night

My wife changed the plans again last night. We were waiting for our kid to finish watching his show when she looked over and said "Go turn everything off in the basement (I had turned the heater on for our playroom)." So I got a little disappointed but wasn't going to screw up again.

Got the kid to sleep and she said she was taking a shower and to get the rope out. After she got out of the shower she told me to take my clothes off. She secured my hands behind my back and said she needed to get the keys. I laid back down in our bed and waited. She came back and let me out and she started to smack her cock around and then to play with it.

She played with it and smacked it for a long time and was driving me crazy. She said she wasn't sure if she was going to let me cum or if she was going to ruin it. At one point she smacked my cock really hard and said "Be quiet, you are here for my enjoyment and I am enjoying playing with your cock so just lay there and don't bother me."

After a long time of taking me to the edge too many times to account, when she let go I felt myself start to just ooze out....UGH! I begged her to grab it and not let it just be a ruined. She was feeling kind and grabbed it and saved the day. Afterwards she left me tied up in my mess and took out her vibrator and had an incredible orgasm. She then told me it was a good one and untied me and said go clean up the mess.

I am still unlocked and really tender down there, not sure why I am so tender honestly. My wife was quick to point out this morning that I am not to be touching myself.

***Update***Not sure what is going on but I am horny as hell right now. Would have thought last night would have gotten this under control at least a bit. Not sure if because it was what I would call a half ruined or what is going on. I told my wife and I commented about the half ruined. Her response was that wasn't her intention but was still amusing.

I screwed up

Last night we were suppose to have a big scene and then we had planned another scene for tonight not as intense but would be a lot of fun. But before any play we had family activities planned. So we rushed out to have dinner before all of his activities. We decided with the craziness we would switch the scenes between nights.
I relaxed for a little while and then met them for the family night. My wife told me she was getting a headache and then later on said she was getting tired. The thing is we have a really bad habit of getting tired or just life getting in the way. So I got cranky...really, really cranky.
So nothing ended up happening except me getting another entry in the behavior modification plan notebook (UGH) and a stern lecture. And I did not get unlocked either :-( On the upside, I didn't get unlocked and my wife remained firmly in control.
On the upside I was told me no matter what we were playing tonight.

Pfbt....Pfbt....Pfbt...

Yesterday my wife wrote me and told me to make sure the trimmer was charged because she wanted me to prune her genital area. So after we got our son down she laid out a towel and waited for me to get the trimmer. I have to be clear I hate the job because I am always terrified I am going to cut her. But I got the job done.

Afterwards we went into the bathroom and she had me get down in the shower as she wanted to mark her property. So she pissed all over my head, this use to be a nightly ritual but we have gotten away from it. She has now said she thinks it is important for us to go back to.

Now for the title, after I got cleaned up and she showered she came in and wanted her nightly oral. So I crawled between her legs and started licking. Pfbt...Pfbt...Pfbt...although she showered there was still a ton of pubic hair trimmings...UGH! I soldiered on and she came really quick (she had been checking out her new cocks and she was playing with the one that has a bullet for her the wearer that got her perky). After I finished I had to go wash my mouth out because of all the hair.

I asked her if it worked knowing that I am laying here all frustrated and you just came. She looked over, giggled and said "Yes, it really does something for me."

Give me the key

My wife and I have been discussing how we intend on ramping things up and going farther. She decided she wanted to meet for lunch and I made the suggestion that maybe I should lock myself up and give her the key at lunch. She LOVED the idea and as she came in to the restaurant she stuck her hand out and I knew exactly what she was expecting so I handed over the key.

I will say when she had me regularly locked up I was use to it. But right now it is back to being uncomfortable. But I will live.

Wondering

My wife is going to be out of town next week so it will be interesting to see if she locks me down. That would be make a really rough week. We have been talking and she is planning on ramping up of things so she may.

We have big plans for tomorrow night but I don't want to jinx it ;-)

No Device Denial

I have not cum in the last week and I am getting pretty desperate. We had talked about a lot of sex last week but that stomach bug really made that a non-starter. The thing is my wife hasn't locked me up which in a way makes it worse and even more frustrating. I think when I am suppose to be denied having a device works better because there is a constant reminder and I don't know it is just better.

I spoke with my wife about it this morning and she said she knew I was getting pretty desperate because of a couple of incidents the last couple of days. I said don't you think you should have done something about it. She just snickered and walked away.

The Wife is Planning

Last night my wife shared with me how excited she is for next week. She has been planning since our break she has just been piling all the laundry in the spare bedroom. It is a mountain and guess who gets to deal with it all?

She, also, told me that I am getting locked back up immediately when I get home and to not be expected to get to cum for a long time. And that I should plan on having a very sore tongue from all the oral she is expecting. Not that there won't be a lot of fucking going on because she told me next Friday she is going to fuck me hard and long while being locked up.

So I guess next week will be an interesting time especially since I am so out of the routine.

Birthday Week Continues

Last night was hot! I didn't get my birthday blow job yet but another hand job last night. My wife started talking about her plans for the 21 days of lock down. She is planning on cumming every night....fucking my ass with me being locked. She wants to see if she can make me cum just from anal. And of course if anything dribbles out how I will be eating it.

Honestly her describing it was definitely getting me turned on but it was really getting her going. She was really getting worked up thinking about it. As I got close she would stop, that  was driving me crazy. I really did not want a ruined one and she was getting close. I came so hard I would have hit my face if my hand hadn't been there. She just giggled at this.

She then pulled out her vibrator and came really quick. She just kept yelling about "how fucking hot that was!" I think I am going to die during this 21 day diet and lock down.

Waiting for the Other Shoe to Drop

As I said in my last post I am currently unlocked and getting to cum every night (tonight I think will be my one and only blow job for the year!). And will remain unlocked until next week....

We were talking about what will go on next week and I have to say what the hell did I get myself into. I knew there was going to be a consequence to this birthday week but UGH!!! My wife and I have agreed to start a 21 day sugar detox next Monday and then a friend of hers needed someone to review a book on an autoimmune protocol and since I have RA she asked if I could. My wife decided that was a fantastic idea and told me so. So I said sure if I she would use me anally twice a week during the 21 days, my wife agreed so I thought I had made a good deal. Well later in the evening I asked about how long my next lockdown was going to be for and she grinned and said the entire time we are doing the 21 day detox!!!!

Remember the longest I have gone locked down is only 9 days. So 21 days is a BIG jump. And on top of it she is going to be anally using me without any chance of my even getting erect let alone cumming! I have no idea how I will survive this diet, denial and being used.

Doldrums Fading Away

The weather here is heating up, today will be in the 60's and then 70's tomorrow. As you all have read my wife and I have had a lot going on her dealing  with her meniere's and me with work and of course both with the pre-holiday stress. So we had agreed to put things on hold until the New Year.

But I have gotten through all of my work issues and we have pretty much gotten all of the Christmas shopping done. And my wife is feeling a lot better, so much so she has been very vocal about not enjoying the break. So I asked her if she wanted to go back on Monday (we are very busy this weekend), she was very quick to say YES! And sounded very relieved.

She said she still has something special planned for New Year's Day but just feels that we really work better with her leading, chastity and the kink.

Checking In

My wife has been pretty ill since last Wednesday, she has Meniere's Disease. That is an inner ear issue that causes vertigo and it has been acting up since last Wednesday. So I have been definitely doing a lot of service because I have had to take care of her and deal with the house and the kid.

So not really that much to talk about. I did get out on Thursday and have been allowed to have to cums. Haven't been locked up since because I needed to be out Saturday morning (but ending up being sick so didn't do the activity I was suppose to).

Hopefully my wife will soon feel better.

 

Thoughts in Chastity

I know that there are a lot of people out there that go for long stretches in chastity. I don't have any idea how they do it. I was able to cum on Saturday and then locked down so today is day  5, yesterday I walked around feeling like I had blue balls all day. This morning I woke up at about 5am with my cock trying to break out of it's metal cage. I have been busy with work this morning so hadn't really noticed anything but just got up to get some coffee and WOW, the blue balls are back.

On the upside, I am scheduled for a cum tonight, but unfortunately do not think I will be allowed to have sex with my wonderful wife as it is that time of the month for her. She has been sick so I doubt she has anything special planned but I asked her and she that she still planned on my cumming tonight. Which is a good thing since her parents arrive tomorrow so I assume I will be back in lock down until at least when they leave on Sunday.

Discussion with My WIfe

A blog that I follow had a Wife and Husband having a discussion about chastity & their relationship and I thought that was a great idea. So like all great ideas I am stealing it for my blog. It will hopefully give you a bit of my wife's side of the story. So what we have agreed to is I am going to write out some questions for her to give you her thoughts. And then depending on the responses maybe some follow up questions. If it is received well maybe we will do more of them, maybe le you email questions or something who knows.

Can you share a little bit about yourself so that people can get to know you? I am a 43 yr old IT professional, mom & keyholder of WLMHubby.  I've been active in the D/s & BDSM world for almost 18 years but I've been naturally Dominant for probably my whole life.

First, we have been working on the FLR for the last couple of months, can you share your thoughts of how it is going?  I think we've found our groove and it seems to be naturally falling into place.

And if you are happy with the changes?  I'm very happy with the changes our formalizing our dynamic has brought about.  We communicate better and seem less stressed as a couple.

What are some of the biggest challenges you think we have had?  From my perspective the biggest challenge initially was accepting that being bitchier & more demanding was OK.  I worried that it might damage our relationship or cause more discord.

Did you think it would have worked out as well as it seems to be?  I'd hoped but truthfully had some reservations but figured nothing ventured nothing gained.

You were the one that was always interested in chastity, can you tell us about how you got so interested?  In my experience men work harder when they are interested in having sex with you and less focused when they are having sex on a regular basis.  

Now that we are actively using chastity in our relationship how are you finding the reality?  Reality is very much what I expected.  You are more focused on me & my needs.

Are you enjoying it as much as you expected?  I think I answered this already but YES very much so.

I know we both expect to go farther in terms of your control. Would you share some of your thoughts about what you would like for us to be working on in the next year?  I think greater focus on getting our house in order both literally & figuratively.   Working on integrating this into our lives even with our parents around in a very natural way.  Just falling further into the dynamic so it is completely 2nd nature and doesn't feel at all forced or intentional.  I'd also like to add more BDSM back into our day to day lives.

As I have talked about before we have played around with trying to move into a FLR a couple of times before, this time feels different like it is really working out or as you say we are in the groove. Can you share your thoughts on what is different this time that it is working out?  I believe we were both equally vested from the beginning vs being at different stages prior.  We worked hard at it in the beginning even when it wasn't always easy.  We both kept the lines of communication open so we could work on issues as they arose vs just letting them fester.  And we are still working on it.  This is a marathon journey and not a quick sprint.

Thanks to my wonderful wife for helping with this post. As I have said before she reads all of my posts and the few comments I get. 

Cage Maintenance

I really hadn't expected much of anything to go on last night as the football game was on. But I started having some discomfort and pinching in the jailbird. So I explained this to my wife and asked if she could let me out to apply some coconut oil and just shift things around.

She said sure, when we got our son to sleep and I walked the dogs, it was time. My wife said that she wanted for us to take a bath and that she was going to take me out so that everything could soak. I had shaved her legs the night before so it was just a relaxing soak.

Afterwards she said alright and she said go get the rope. So I grabbed the rope and she secured my wrists and elbows. I was getting excited, which she decided was a reason to start smacking my cock around. I hate cbt and will be completely honest I am a wimp with. She apply the coconut oil and then left me tied up and just kept whacking my cock for a long time.

When her amusement past she then complained how was she suppose to put it away. I was rock hard (what can I say I guess my cock likes cbt). After awhile she was able to get my balls in and a few minutes later my cock. So I am back in lock down.

I will say I had thought when she did such a complete tie I had some serious teasing coming my way. But it was not meant to be. And I am grateful for the relief (everything feels much better today) and her using my cock to amuse her.

Getting Back

We are working on getting back to our routine. Last night we took a tub and I shaved her legs. Then we watched "Heat" with Sandra Bullock and Melissa McCarthy, which was very funny. Our son has a day off from all the snow and ice so he has been entertaining himself watching netflix, so I didn't have to make the bed. But got her tea made, laundry done and kitchen straightened up.

Doing ok with being locked up, yes it has only been since Saturday night but we haven't really done long term. I am horny as all get out but that is my normal state. During our tub last night after I was done shaving her my wife rubbed the cage with her feet. That just drove me absolutely crazy!

We had a good conversation through G-Chat today. Just reviewing where we are in our relationship, what we need to work on before the New Year. As I have said we really want to have this worked out where FLR is just how we are. I think in terms of FLR, we will be where we want to be. We are a little out of our groove because of last week but expect that to quickly be corrected. There are some areas that we need to make more of a focus and be consistent with. And we agreed that we both still interested and would focus more on.  It was a good conversation and I think that we are both on the same page and were happy with our progress.

Tonight will be low key because of Monday Night Football but we have big plans for tomorrow night so I am excited.

Locked Again

Last night after we got the kid down, had me massage her legs and then she said alright it's time. She made me put on a condom which made me worry about needing to clean up afterwards, although I was unlocked I have not been given a chance to cum since Monday so I knew there would be a lot.

She started playing with me and telling me all she has planned for this week. Good it was hot, of course she is suppose to have her period so although she has a lot of hot things planned, there will be an added level of grossness. Which at the time will not be hot but I am embarrassed to say was really hot last night and thinking about it now has me straining against my cage.

I got to the edge a couple of times and asked her to back off so I could savor the experience. Then she said "I never said you were definitely getting a good one!" Oh No!!! Well she edge me a couple more times but then she let me cum and boy did I explode.She just looked at the condom and just started giggling about how much there was. Yes, I will admit it I begged and begged to not have to do it. I talked about all of the disgusting things she has planned for my week and since it was our first day back couldn't we just skip it.

She looked at the amount of the load again and said "alright, go clean yourself up and get back in here. I am going to play with myself with the vibrator and you need to help and if it is not a good one what we talked about will seem easy." I rushed to the bathroom and cleanup and got back, she had already started. I went for her nipples as they always make it a good orgasm. Because she is so close to her period she said no because they were too sensitive. DAMN! So I started to play with her letting my hand lean against the vibrator and started talking about the things she had said to me.

She came and came hard. When she was done she started to say "DAMN YOU!" Apparently she thought without her nipples it would be difficult to make it such a good one. Well, the talking about the things she had planned really turned her on (She really gets into humiliating me and doing things that I find disgusting (which is hot for me too)). She said it really pushed her over.

A little while later she locked me down. Her current plan for release is Thursday but I asked her this morning to fuck my ass on Tuesday. We have never done this locked down and I am interested to see how that experience will be.