Anniversary Post

Our anniversary was back in September and we decided to go to a nice bed and breakfast in one of the old, country towns that is not to far from our house. We got there early and wandered around the antique shops and just had a nice day.

Afterwards we went back to our room and took a nap. And then we decided it was time for us to play, I was told to go clean myself out. So I went into the bathroom for probably a half hour and listened to Rush. When I came out I got to see my beautiful wife lounging around with her strap-on just waiting for me. 

All I can say is she used me in every corner of that room. My wife had her way with me for a long time and it was such an amazing night. I felt so connected to her. And it was overwhelming too. At one point she talked about going ass to mouth and I said "No way!" She stopped fucking me and had me get on my knees as she stood over me with her strap-on in my face. And she lectured me that if she wants me to suck her cock after she has fucked me I will do it. All I could say was "Yes Ma'am." Luckily she went back to fucking my ass and never made me do that.

Afterwards we went to a wonderful dinner and a had an incredible night.

Njoy Butt Plug

I spent a good part of yesterday cleaning out my closet (it was truly a nightmare), my wife yelled at me that I should have warned her as she almost had a heart attack. Yes, it was that bad. I am really close to being done.  It's probably 95% done with just some boxes to go through.

I really wanted to get this accomplished but another reason was in that disaster my Njoy butt plug lived.  As I have said we are going to be focusing a lot on anal in 2014 so this will be used a lot. In the past my wife has given me weekly targets for how long I needed to wear it so it was important to find this.

I am not sure if you have experience with the Njoy products but let me tell you they are top notch stainless steel insertable products. And being that they are all metal you definitely notice the weight but are very easy to use for long term use. Other butt plugs I have never felt are designed well for long term use. I highly recommend.

2014 Goals

While we were away this past weekend, our son ended up spending Saturday night in our friends' room (all the kids wanted to be together). So Sunday morning I woke up and wanted badly to have sex (I love morning sex but with the kid around it never happens). I was able to convince my wife, through begging and pleading that it was a good idea and she really was doing it just because she knows how much I love it.

Well I am a very verbal person and love to be talked to during sex. So I had asked if she had been thinking of any goals for the new year in terms of the FLR relationship and she had. So the goals she has set are as follows:

1. No more breaks from our new roles, she knows things come up but from now on we deal with them in our agreed upon dynamic. As I have said she is really embracing our new roles and is very happy in the roles. She feels we work much better with her the dominant and my following her lead.
2. Currently she only makes me clean-up (eat) probably about 50% of the messes that I make when I am allowed to cum. Going forward her goal is that will be 100%. UGH!!!! I hate this and it is so disgusting, but as I have said before thinking about the times she has made me do this is always hot.
3. She want us to focus on making BDSM/Kinky play happen a lot more. She acknowledge that we have to really force it for awhile to get ourselves back in the routine. She feels that we have gotten our relationship dynamic in a good place (still a lot of room for growth but it is an ongoing process) but we both want play to be a part of this and it needs to be a focus.

I got nervous about goal number two as we were having sex and whether she planned on implementing it immediately. She said no, she was worried our son would wander back over. But going forward yes....

We have talked some more and I have asked that we make the theme for the year anal. We both love it but it just doesn't seem to happen that often. But I think after an incredible anniversary date we both realize how much it needs to be a focus. So that is our theme and I asked that we add one additional goal...

   4. To work me up to the point that by the end of the year she will have fisted me. This is a pretty big goal and my wife is doubtful but I know if we focus on making play and anal play happen we can get there.

So those are our FLR/BDSM goals as they stand for 2014. Not sure if she will decide on any more, like chastity goals or anything. We try and keep the number of goals down (but that have a lot of things under them) so that we can focus on hitting them. We have other goals but not really appropriate for this blog.

Weekend Away

Sorry for the lack of posts recently, we will get back to posting now that Christmas is over.

We ended up going away for a family vacation this past weekend and ended up extending so we went right into the craziness of the holiday when we got back. It was an interesting trip, we went with another family that is very open that they are in a female led relationship but are not in any way kinky.

It was funny when we met them it was very apparent that the wife was the boss in the family. As we got to know them it was very clear that this was their relationship dynamic but we didn't know how to broach the subject. Then we saw something that they had written and they clearly said that she was the head of the household.

That made bringing up the topic a lot easier. So we broached it and can now discuss things openly which is good that we have someone to talk about it.I have to say when it comes to service he is the best role model for me. He really has it down but at the same time it is good to see that he sometimes gets frustrated with the requests I think it helps me see the reality and that even if my wife gets upset when I am frustrated it happens.

Over the weekend we had a good discussion about goals for 2014, look for that post hopefully tomorrow.

Doldrums Fading Away

The weather here is heating up, today will be in the 60's and then 70's tomorrow. As you all have read my wife and I have had a lot going on her dealing  with her meniere's and me with work and of course both with the pre-holiday stress. So we had agreed to put things on hold until the New Year.

But I have gotten through all of my work issues and we have pretty much gotten all of the Christmas shopping done. And my wife is feeling a lot better, so much so she has been very vocal about not enjoying the break. So I asked her if she wanted to go back on Monday (we are very busy this weekend), she was very quick to say YES! And sounded very relieved.

She said she still has something special planned for New Year's Day but just feels that we really work better with her leading, chastity and the kink.

Holiday Duldrums

Life has been more then a little stressful lately, my wife is struggling with her Meniere's as I talked about in my last post. Besides the vertigo, the meds just make her incredibly tired. And work is crazy for me before the holiday and just the overall stress that comes from the holidays...so stress really just abounds.

So we really haven't been doing much and frankly trying to force it was becoming stressful. You know it not happening and my wife worrying that she needed to (which she didn't). But we had a chat yesterday and decided we needed to go back to a vanilla mode until New Year's. My wife asked "would I be ok with it?" And of course I was we need to take care of us first and the rest will happen when it is the right time. I know she is really disappointed but she will be able to recover and not be stressed about what she is doing or not doing. And I can focus on getting my work crap out of the way. To be clear she is still the boss and in fact was pointing out last night that I was slacking on the laundry.

I know my wife has a lot of plans for New Year's day, she was planning before this happened. So I imagine she will be even more motivated. In the mean time we have a lot of family time carved out and we are going to spend a lot of time on goals for the New Year (personal, career, family, home and FLR).

We were out at dinner last night and we talked about the blog. I think I will post some of our past exploits, like maybe my pre-bachelor party and some other fun times.

BDSM Event

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Checking In

My wife has been pretty ill since last Wednesday, she has Meniere's Disease. That is an inner ear issue that causes vertigo and it has been acting up since last Wednesday. So I have been definitely doing a lot of service because I have had to take care of her and deal with the house and the kid.

So not really that much to talk about. I did get out on Thursday and have been allowed to have to cums. Haven't been locked up since because I needed to be out Saturday morning (but ending up being sick so didn't do the activity I was suppose to).

Hopefully my wife will soon feel better.

 

Thoughts in Chastity

I know that there are a lot of people out there that go for long stretches in chastity. I don't have any idea how they do it. I was able to cum on Saturday and then locked down so today is day  5, yesterday I walked around feeling like I had blue balls all day. This morning I woke up at about 5am with my cock trying to break out of it's metal cage. I have been busy with work this morning so hadn't really noticed anything but just got up to get some coffee and WOW, the blue balls are back.

On the upside, I am scheduled for a cum tonight, but unfortunately do not think I will be allowed to have sex with my wonderful wife as it is that time of the month for her. She has been sick so I doubt she has anything special planned but I asked her and she that she still planned on my cumming tonight. Which is a good thing since her parents arrive tomorrow so I assume I will be back in lock down until at least when they leave on Sunday.

Discussion with My WIfe

A blog that I follow had a Wife and Husband having a discussion about chastity & their relationship and I thought that was a great idea. So like all great ideas I am stealing it for my blog. It will hopefully give you a bit of my wife's side of the story. So what we have agreed to is I am going to write out some questions for her to give you her thoughts. And then depending on the responses maybe some follow up questions. If it is received well maybe we will do more of them, maybe le you email questions or something who knows.

Can you share a little bit about yourself so that people can get to know you? I am a 43 yr old IT professional, mom & keyholder of WLMHubby.  I've been active in the D/s & BDSM world for almost 18 years but I've been naturally Dominant for probably my whole life.

First, we have been working on the FLR for the last couple of months, can you share your thoughts of how it is going?  I think we've found our groove and it seems to be naturally falling into place.

And if you are happy with the changes?  I'm very happy with the changes our formalizing our dynamic has brought about.  We communicate better and seem less stressed as a couple.

What are some of the biggest challenges you think we have had?  From my perspective the biggest challenge initially was accepting that being bitchier & more demanding was OK.  I worried that it might damage our relationship or cause more discord.

Did you think it would have worked out as well as it seems to be?  I'd hoped but truthfully had some reservations but figured nothing ventured nothing gained.

You were the one that was always interested in chastity, can you tell us about how you got so interested?  In my experience men work harder when they are interested in having sex with you and less focused when they are having sex on a regular basis.  

Now that we are actively using chastity in our relationship how are you finding the reality?  Reality is very much what I expected.  You are more focused on me & my needs.

Are you enjoying it as much as you expected?  I think I answered this already but YES very much so.

I know we both expect to go farther in terms of your control. Would you share some of your thoughts about what you would like for us to be working on in the next year?  I think greater focus on getting our house in order both literally & figuratively.   Working on integrating this into our lives even with our parents around in a very natural way.  Just falling further into the dynamic so it is completely 2nd nature and doesn't feel at all forced or intentional.  I'd also like to add more BDSM back into our day to day lives.

As I have talked about before we have played around with trying to move into a FLR a couple of times before, this time feels different like it is really working out or as you say we are in the groove. Can you share your thoughts on what is different this time that it is working out?  I believe we were both equally vested from the beginning vs being at different stages prior.  We worked hard at it in the beginning even when it wasn't always easy.  We both kept the lines of communication open so we could work on issues as they arose vs just letting them fester.  And we are still working on it.  This is a marathon journey and not a quick sprint.

Thanks to my wonderful wife for helping with this post. As I have said before she reads all of my posts and the few comments I get. 

Cage Maintenance

I really hadn't expected much of anything to go on last night as the football game was on. But I started having some discomfort and pinching in the jailbird. So I explained this to my wife and asked if she could let me out to apply some coconut oil and just shift things around.

She said sure, when we got our son to sleep and I walked the dogs, it was time. My wife said that she wanted for us to take a bath and that she was going to take me out so that everything could soak. I had shaved her legs the night before so it was just a relaxing soak.

Afterwards she said alright and she said go get the rope. So I grabbed the rope and she secured my wrists and elbows. I was getting excited, which she decided was a reason to start smacking my cock around. I hate cbt and will be completely honest I am a wimp with. She apply the coconut oil and then left me tied up and just kept whacking my cock for a long time.

When her amusement past she then complained how was she suppose to put it away. I was rock hard (what can I say I guess my cock likes cbt). After awhile she was able to get my balls in and a few minutes later my cock. So I am back in lock down.

I will say I had thought when she did such a complete tie I had some serious teasing coming my way. But it was not meant to be. And I am grateful for the relief (everything feels much better today) and her using my cock to amuse her.

Getting Back

We are working on getting back to our routine. Last night we took a tub and I shaved her legs. Then we watched "Heat" with Sandra Bullock and Melissa McCarthy, which was very funny. Our son has a day off from all the snow and ice so he has been entertaining himself watching netflix, so I didn't have to make the bed. But got her tea made, laundry done and kitchen straightened up.

Doing ok with being locked up, yes it has only been since Saturday night but we haven't really done long term. I am horny as all get out but that is my normal state. During our tub last night after I was done shaving her my wife rubbed the cage with her feet. That just drove me absolutely crazy!

We had a good conversation through G-Chat today. Just reviewing where we are in our relationship, what we need to work on before the New Year. As I have said we really want to have this worked out where FLR is just how we are. I think in terms of FLR, we will be where we want to be. We are a little out of our groove because of last week but expect that to quickly be corrected. There are some areas that we need to make more of a focus and be consistent with. And we agreed that we both still interested and would focus more on.  It was a good conversation and I think that we are both on the same page and were happy with our progress.

Tonight will be low key because of Monday Night Football but we have big plans for tomorrow night so I am excited.

Locked Again

Last night after we got the kid down, had me massage her legs and then she said alright it's time. She made me put on a condom which made me worry about needing to clean up afterwards, although I was unlocked I have not been given a chance to cum since Monday so I knew there would be a lot.

She started playing with me and telling me all she has planned for this week. Good it was hot, of course she is suppose to have her period so although she has a lot of hot things planned, there will be an added level of grossness. Which at the time will not be hot but I am embarrassed to say was really hot last night and thinking about it now has me straining against my cage.

I got to the edge a couple of times and asked her to back off so I could savor the experience. Then she said "I never said you were definitely getting a good one!" Oh No!!! Well she edge me a couple more times but then she let me cum and boy did I explode.She just looked at the condom and just started giggling about how much there was. Yes, I will admit it I begged and begged to not have to do it. I talked about all of the disgusting things she has planned for my week and since it was our first day back couldn't we just skip it.

She looked at the amount of the load again and said "alright, go clean yourself up and get back in here. I am going to play with myself with the vibrator and you need to help and if it is not a good one what we talked about will seem easy." I rushed to the bathroom and cleanup and got back, she had already started. I went for her nipples as they always make it a good orgasm. Because she is so close to her period she said no because they were too sensitive. DAMN! So I started to play with her letting my hand lean against the vibrator and started talking about the things she had said to me.

She came and came hard. When she was done she started to say "DAMN YOU!" Apparently she thought without her nipples it would be difficult to make it such a good one. Well, the talking about the things she had planned really turned her on (She really gets into humiliating me and doing things that I find disgusting (which is hot for me too)). She said it really pushed her over.

A little while later she locked me down. Her current plan for release is Thursday but I asked her this morning to fuck my ass on Tuesday. We have never done this locked down and I am interested to see how that experience will be.

Happy Return to Things

This morning we resumed our WLM status and I can tell you we are both relieved. My wife was in the shower and I went over and gave her a kiss and said I am glad we are back to our normal status. She let out a big sigh and said "Yeah, me too." And then gave me a couple of tasks that she needed done and I was off.

Handled the laundry, cleaned up the kitchen and got her tasks done. My wife took our son to a school activity when they got home we went out as a family to do some grocery shopping. She hurt her back this week so I was quick to make sure she did not pick anything up. When we got home I dealt with the groceries, walked the dogs and then made lunch. She has been very quick to going back to giving instructions and having me do things.

I am still not yet locked, last night she decided that I deserved one last cum before lock up again but wanted to wait until we had resumed things. With her back I don't think she will be up for sex but even a handjob would be great! Of course the reason I think she waited until we had resumed is she gets so hot by forcing me to consume my mess. I can tell you I think it is disgusting but a couple days later for some reason I remember it being really hot.

What can I say I think that this style of relationship really works for us.

Unexpected Week Off

Sorry for being gone so long. As I wrote in my last post, the our fun ended the other night when I got some bad family news, an Uncle who was an important part of my life growing up was being taken off life support. He past on Monday. Then I came down with a horrible chest cold.

I told my wife that I needed a day off from the WLM. I thought that would be enough I just needed to not have to focus but then thought the comfort of the routine after that day would help. But then my cold just kept getting worse and worse. So we have pretty much been off all week. I can really tell my wife has missed our new roles. And I can say it really works for me too.This week has kind of been awkward, I still tried to do a lot of what I do for her because I know it makes her happy.

We would have probably gone back Wednesday or yesterday but work has been crushing my soul this week, new systems at work. But I just went up and talked to her. We are going to do a little something tonight and then tomorrow we are back to the roles we have grown comfortable with.

Last Night

After we got our son to sleep, my wife said she wanted to take a tub. I said I would give it a little while to make sure our soon went to sleep. Once I was comfortable I went to join her. She unlocked me and I got ready to shave her legs. After we got out and we returned to the bedroom I was told to get a condom. 

I dug one out but somehow it was a flavored, no idea where that would have come from. But she gave me a look and then put it on me. She said "This first one I am going to just play with you. Then I am going to play with my vibrator for a bit and then we are going to have sex. While we are having sex though you are going to have the contents of the condom and the condom in your mouth. Then when we are finished your going to lick me clean." Wow was that hot to hear.

So she began to play with me and I wanted it to last forever. But with the lack of attention I've had I realized I was getting close and asked her to slow down. Damn it it was too close and as she pulled her hand off I started to cum....Oh know my first cum after 8 days and it started to look like it was going to be a ruined one. I begged her to stroke it as it was too late. Luckily she was kind and resumed, can't say it was a monumental one or anything but it was pleasurable.

True to her word she rolled over and grabbed her vibrator and was working it. It didn't take very long at all for me to be ready for round 2 and she said are you ready? I said yes and she pulled the condom off and deposited the contents into my mouth and the condom (which was even worse then the cum, disgustingly sweet strawberry). She mounted me and was really really into it. So much so she came really fast, I asked her about it today and she said my laying there with the cum in my mouth just got her really hot. 

She got off of me and said we would go again in a little while. After a few minutes, yes I still had the cum and condom in my mouth, I started to just get sick. It wasn't from the cum, nope it was the disgustingly sweet condom. I frantically started flapping my arms so she knew there was an issue and she said "go to the bathroom and deal with it." So I did, oh god that was horrible.

I figured we would be starting round 3 soon but after I got back we got a call. Unfortunately I got some really bad family news which put things to an end. It was a fantastic night with a lot of fun. I am not locked up as I have asked for a day to deal with the family stuff (today is just a mentally exhausting day) but have asked that it only be a day and that we get back to the FLR tomorrow. I really think that the structure of our new structure and her being strict will help me to get through this difficult time. 

 

Tonight's the night....I Hope?!?!

We survived the holidays!!! And my wife was very direct and bossy this past week (I loved this). But really other then that everything was pretty vanilla. A good part of it is my own fault, nights where she had plans we would consistently get into fights and that would end that

As it stands hopefully I will be unlocked tonight, this has been the longest I have gone 8 days. And really I cannot wait I am climbing the walls. I think/hope that I will get more then one release. I say hope because we have had some bickering and she keeps threatening to extend (really need to shut my mouth). At the same time that I am really really excited, I am also dreading it. As I know release means I am looking at clean up duty. My releases are generally very large and after 8 days can't imagine how much there will be???

My wife is telling me when we are done tonight I am going right back into lock up to. She really seems to be growing into the role. I think this lock up is only until Wednesday though. Next weekend we are going to a wedding for my cousin and we are staying at her parents house. I would think I will be loose as that has been how it was in the past but after this past week who knows. Will need to discuss with her tonight.