Getting Back on Track

Long time without posting but there really hasn't been a lot to say in terms of FLR or chastity. But I think there have been a lot of good conversations about our needs and what each of us needs for an FLR to work.

I know a lot of people that want FLRs say that BDSM and kink is really not their motivation. And I tried to think that way but made clear I would like for it to be. I learned that it is not a want for me but a need. I really really love my wife to be in control and making the decisions and my serving her but I need the BDSM & humiliation parts to for it to be satisfying for me. There was a blog post that was about dominance versus abuse but really captured the idea that some submissive husbands need these things for the FLR relationship to be fufilling (it can be found here: http://dommewife.blogspot.com/2014/05/the-fine-line-between-domination-and.html ). My wife was a little taken aback when I showed it to her because of the abuse discussion. I had to explain that I just felt the post captured exactly what I felt that I needed these aspects and it wasn't a simple want.

My wife has really been pushing for us to get back to it. But last week really it just wasn't going to work out but I agreed to start today. Then I really hadn't heard anything more about expectations or anything. So last night I told her it was up to her if we went back to it. I couldn't emotionally get excited for it and be let down again. All she said was ok and then again I voiced some of my frustration and her response was I have given it a lot of thought and I know what I want (not telling me if we were going forward or what her plan was).

This morning I woke up with her going through my drawers and pulling out a pair of panties that I was suppose to wear today. Later in the day I thanked her and she told me to go was out the pee ice trays and that she planned on refilling them this evening. And then she told me I should plan on being in the body bag this evening. So looks like she does have a plan but looks like I will only get to know, what I need to know, when I need to know it.

Weekend Away

Sorry for the lack of posts recently, we will get back to posting now that Christmas is over.

We ended up going away for a family vacation this past weekend and ended up extending so we went right into the craziness of the holiday when we got back. It was an interesting trip, we went with another family that is very open that they are in a female led relationship but are not in any way kinky.

It was funny when we met them it was very apparent that the wife was the boss in the family. As we got to know them it was very clear that this was their relationship dynamic but we didn't know how to broach the subject. Then we saw something that they had written and they clearly said that she was the head of the household.

That made bringing up the topic a lot easier. So we broached it and can now discuss things openly which is good that we have someone to talk about it.I have to say when it comes to service he is the best role model for me. He really has it down but at the same time it is good to see that he sometimes gets frustrated with the requests I think it helps me see the reality and that even if my wife gets upset when I am frustrated it happens.

Over the weekend we had a good discussion about goals for 2014, look for that post hopefully tomorrow.

Household chores

I know a lot of people that blog about FLRs talk about the husband being responsible for doing all of the household chores. I really have no idea how they make that work (unless they are house husbands). Our loves are just too crazy with everything going on.
That doesn't mean that chores are changing. When we started out I was told I needed to make the bed everyday. And then this past weekend, I had to work all weekend so was pretty much trapped at our house (I work from home). Saturday morning she talked about the fact that our laundry was out of control. She started it and then went running around doing things with our son. Since I was stuck at home I decided I should make her life easier and spent time folding clothes and transferring clothes for washer to dryer (I won't start the wash as I generally screw it up). When they came home my wife was blown away and incredibly happy.
Sunday was pretty much more of the same. Me, being stuck at home for work and her taking our son out and doing fun activities. Again, she had started the laundry so I spent time getting all of that taken care of. And she had told me she wanted kielbasa and sauerkraut for dinner so with work I was running around a lot. Because I also needed to straighten up the kitchen and other things. Again she was thrilled at everything that had gotten done. Later in the night we again had a really good discussion about where we were. And she said my dealing with the laundry after she starts it was really really working for her. And to be honest it really worked for me too.
As I said when I started this post I really do not believe we will ever go to me handling all the household chores. To us it is really just unrealistic. But I will say the chores that I have taken over really do something to my mindset, if that makes any sense? As I am doing the chores I am realizing I am doing these things to make my wife's life easier and that it is an act of service and I don't know as my wife said it just really works for me.