Weekend Away

Sorry for the lack of posts recently, we will get back to posting now that Christmas is over.

We ended up going away for a family vacation this past weekend and ended up extending so we went right into the craziness of the holiday when we got back. It was an interesting trip, we went with another family that is very open that they are in a female led relationship but are not in any way kinky.

It was funny when we met them it was very apparent that the wife was the boss in the family. As we got to know them it was very clear that this was their relationship dynamic but we didn't know how to broach the subject. Then we saw something that they had written and they clearly said that she was the head of the household.

That made bringing up the topic a lot easier. So we broached it and can now discuss things openly which is good that we have someone to talk about it.I have to say when it comes to service he is the best role model for me. He really has it down but at the same time it is good to see that he sometimes gets frustrated with the requests I think it helps me see the reality and that even if my wife gets upset when I am frustrated it happens.

Over the weekend we had a good discussion about goals for 2014, look for that post hopefully tomorrow.

Doldrums Fading Away

The weather here is heating up, today will be in the 60's and then 70's tomorrow. As you all have read my wife and I have had a lot going on her dealing  with her meniere's and me with work and of course both with the pre-holiday stress. So we had agreed to put things on hold until the New Year.

But I have gotten through all of my work issues and we have pretty much gotten all of the Christmas shopping done. And my wife is feeling a lot better, so much so she has been very vocal about not enjoying the break. So I asked her if she wanted to go back on Monday (we are very busy this weekend), she was very quick to say YES! And sounded very relieved.

She said she still has something special planned for New Year's Day but just feels that we really work better with her leading, chastity and the kink.

Holiday Duldrums

Life has been more then a little stressful lately, my wife is struggling with her Meniere's as I talked about in my last post. Besides the vertigo, the meds just make her incredibly tired. And work is crazy for me before the holiday and just the overall stress that comes from the holidays...so stress really just abounds.

So we really haven't been doing much and frankly trying to force it was becoming stressful. You know it not happening and my wife worrying that she needed to (which she didn't). But we had a chat yesterday and decided we needed to go back to a vanilla mode until New Year's. My wife asked "would I be ok with it?" And of course I was we need to take care of us first and the rest will happen when it is the right time. I know she is really disappointed but she will be able to recover and not be stressed about what she is doing or not doing. And I can focus on getting my work crap out of the way. To be clear she is still the boss and in fact was pointing out last night that I was slacking on the laundry.

I know my wife has a lot of plans for New Year's day, she was planning before this happened. So I imagine she will be even more motivated. In the mean time we have a lot of family time carved out and we are going to spend a lot of time on goals for the New Year (personal, career, family, home and FLR).

We were out at dinner last night and we talked about the blog. I think I will post some of our past exploits, like maybe my pre-bachelor party and some other fun times.

BDSM Event

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Checking In

My wife has been pretty ill since last Wednesday, she has Meniere's Disease. That is an inner ear issue that causes vertigo and it has been acting up since last Wednesday. So I have been definitely doing a lot of service because I have had to take care of her and deal with the house and the kid.

So not really that much to talk about. I did get out on Thursday and have been allowed to have to cums. Haven't been locked up since because I needed to be out Saturday morning (but ending up being sick so didn't do the activity I was suppose to).

Hopefully my wife will soon feel better.

 

Thoughts in Chastity

I know that there are a lot of people out there that go for long stretches in chastity. I don't have any idea how they do it. I was able to cum on Saturday and then locked down so today is day  5, yesterday I walked around feeling like I had blue balls all day. This morning I woke up at about 5am with my cock trying to break out of it's metal cage. I have been busy with work this morning so hadn't really noticed anything but just got up to get some coffee and WOW, the blue balls are back.

On the upside, I am scheduled for a cum tonight, but unfortunately do not think I will be allowed to have sex with my wonderful wife as it is that time of the month for her. She has been sick so I doubt she has anything special planned but I asked her and she that she still planned on my cumming tonight. Which is a good thing since her parents arrive tomorrow so I assume I will be back in lock down until at least when they leave on Sunday.

Discussion with My WIfe

A blog that I follow had a Wife and Husband having a discussion about chastity & their relationship and I thought that was a great idea. So like all great ideas I am stealing it for my blog. It will hopefully give you a bit of my wife's side of the story. So what we have agreed to is I am going to write out some questions for her to give you her thoughts. And then depending on the responses maybe some follow up questions. If it is received well maybe we will do more of them, maybe le you email questions or something who knows.

Can you share a little bit about yourself so that people can get to know you? I am a 43 yr old IT professional, mom & keyholder of WLMHubby.  I've been active in the D/s & BDSM world for almost 18 years but I've been naturally Dominant for probably my whole life.

First, we have been working on the FLR for the last couple of months, can you share your thoughts of how it is going?  I think we've found our groove and it seems to be naturally falling into place.

And if you are happy with the changes?  I'm very happy with the changes our formalizing our dynamic has brought about.  We communicate better and seem less stressed as a couple.

What are some of the biggest challenges you think we have had?  From my perspective the biggest challenge initially was accepting that being bitchier & more demanding was OK.  I worried that it might damage our relationship or cause more discord.

Did you think it would have worked out as well as it seems to be?  I'd hoped but truthfully had some reservations but figured nothing ventured nothing gained.

You were the one that was always interested in chastity, can you tell us about how you got so interested?  In my experience men work harder when they are interested in having sex with you and less focused when they are having sex on a regular basis.  

Now that we are actively using chastity in our relationship how are you finding the reality?  Reality is very much what I expected.  You are more focused on me & my needs.

Are you enjoying it as much as you expected?  I think I answered this already but YES very much so.

I know we both expect to go farther in terms of your control. Would you share some of your thoughts about what you would like for us to be working on in the next year?  I think greater focus on getting our house in order both literally & figuratively.   Working on integrating this into our lives even with our parents around in a very natural way.  Just falling further into the dynamic so it is completely 2nd nature and doesn't feel at all forced or intentional.  I'd also like to add more BDSM back into our day to day lives.

As I have talked about before we have played around with trying to move into a FLR a couple of times before, this time feels different like it is really working out or as you say we are in the groove. Can you share your thoughts on what is different this time that it is working out?  I believe we were both equally vested from the beginning vs being at different stages prior.  We worked hard at it in the beginning even when it wasn't always easy.  We both kept the lines of communication open so we could work on issues as they arose vs just letting them fester.  And we are still working on it.  This is a marathon journey and not a quick sprint.

Thanks to my wonderful wife for helping with this post. As I have said before she reads all of my posts and the few comments I get.